About Me

Why I Do This Work

For nearly two decades, I chased the dream of being a published novelist. I attacked this dream the only way I knew how—with a nearly indefatigable workaholism and perfectionism which gave me a slew of works but always left me exhausted. When I wasn’t working, I fell into depression.

Everything was sacrificed for it—time, energy, relationships, and even joy. I didn’t want to admit it but I didn’t love what I was doing. My world slowly began to silo around me.

Then after 15 years, still unpublished (and in my mind successful), I quit. Convinced I was a hopeless failure, I fell into a dark hole of depression, sadness, grief, and apathy. I cut myself off from everyone I loved.

Without a plan B, without the ability or honesty to ask for help, and without knowing what to do next, I spiraled into unhealthy habits, distractions, and isolation.

Then one day during the Covid shutdowns, I broke down on the phone with a friend and let loose all the hurt and the sadness that I tried so hard to ignore. I realized then that I needed to seel help.

Therapy, men’s groups, and honest self-reflection through journaling and solitude. But honestly, the real breakthroughs came when I let go of who I thought the world wanted me to be and began walking the pathless path of my own authenticity. This took faith, which is how I also began my spiritual journal.

I’m still on this path.

Watch my video about it here

How I can guide you

As I walked this path, I’ve gathered the tools and experience I now share with the men I coach.

• Certified Professional Coach from Coach Training Alliance

• Published writer with 25+ years of creative practice

• My coaching business is evidence of how working on yourself to expand your life

• Still doing the work, every day